Bill Schmalfeldt, Gamma: Part 8

If someone else is sick, particularly if it is serious, they might obsess over the illness as they subconsciously imagine themselves being in that same state. You’ll also see that all illness discussions focus around death and generally lead to death.

If someone they know dies young, particularly of an illness they might obsess about it, or show nonchalant disregard about it because of their inability to deal with it at all. If a Gamma loses a parent when he’s an adult he acts like he’s the first adult child to ever lose a parent. Many men have lost loved ones and written about their experiences, but the Gamma doesn’t do it to honor those who have died, express grief, or even write to others with words of encouragement, but is narcissistic and turns the death of another into something special about the Gamma.

Fear of Being Ordinary

*EDITOR’S NOTE*

The death of someone close and dear to us is obviously a traumatic event. It is always fraught with pain, and healing takes months or even years to get over, if ever. Also, the strangest things can trigger expressions grief in a person. I remember being triggered over a couch that was being sold at a yard sale after a loved one’s death. It might have been over something silly and trivial, but it resulted in a very ugly cry and release of emotions that ultimately helped me heal. This post, however, deals with the very public protestations that have been made to ensure that we know just how *special* and *unique* the Gamma’s grief is. It is not meant to denigrate real and true grief, which all of us, even the Gamma, have felt at one point in time or another.

*END NOTE*

This trait of the Gamma, unfortunately, brushes up against territory that we usually don’t get into here at Billy Sez. So I will keep this discussion to a minimum.

HOWEVER

This means that I have to go back in time. To a time when Bill lost his twin brother. Which was the most awful time, ever. Unfortunately I don’t have the screen shots at hand, but there was some discussion about how AWFUL and HORRIBLE it was to lose a twin. That it was the WORST PAIN EVAH! More painful than losing a different type of sibling, a parent or a beloved spouse. For some reason Bill also decided to put forth that it was because they were “monoplacental twins” – i.e. sharing the same placenta – that it made them even more special.

I hate to break it to Bill, but there are twins that are even MORE special than monoplacental twins. They are called mono-mono twins. They share both a placenta and an amniotic sac. Too bad he missed out on that extra little oomph to his special-ness.

Another person that was to ascend to heaven was his mother. She died while he was in the midst of a legal battle in Maryland with WJJ Hoge over a no-contact order. That part caused some drama to be sure. However, there were other things that he said both while she was dying (deathbed tweets) and after (grieving time!) that were oh so, umm, special. I’m only going to highlight one set.

Oh my.

I’m not going to reproduce the rest of that particular conversation to himself whilst smearing his ex-wife. Again. I’ll just note that his misogyny is on display as per usual.

But that doesn’t get him the title of Grievingest Griever EVAH!

Unfortunately, this does.

I have no tolerance for people who bring up the death of a loved one to evoke sympathy for themselves, and who then attack those who would criticize them for their puffery – especially when they have a long and documented history of being a dick about this sort of thing previously.

This life is not about who grieves the most or the best.